Moon to Moon: Your Heart to My Heart

The Moon represents how we give and want to receive love.  The placement of Moon for you and another person will determine how you will want to share emotions, enhancing both understanding and misunderstanding depending on the placements (sign and house) of your Moons.

This article will look at Moon to Moon interactions in charts and discuss how they may present in real-life interactions: romantically, between friends, with employers/employees, and family.  Some placements make flow easy, others are combative, and some are just plain frustrating. Knowing the Moon in your chart and the other person’s chart can help increase closeness and avoid heartbreak.

The Moon: Giving and Receiving Love

In astrological work, the three most common areas people want to know about are love, career, and family, usually in that order of importance.  When potential clients approach me about a romantic relationship or while in pursuit of a romantic relationship, they will often ask about Sun sign compatibility, usually saying something like, “I am a Taurus and I read that I should not date an Aquarius, is that true?”

Well, what’s true is that Taurus and Aquarius challenge each other, making any interaction stressful, whether it is good stress (excitement and attraction) or bad stress (dislike and disagreement).  One thing is for certain, these signs interact intensely.  But what is not obvious is that these signs can have a great relationship if the Moon signs of the people are compatible.

If I looked at their chart and saw that their Moons were in the Taurus/Aquarius dynamic, I would have to inform them that the interpersonal relationship could succeed only if both of them were very mature and authentic.  The same dynamic that would make Sun signs successful out in the world, would not enjoy the kind of challenge these signs bring to each other in private and vulnerable space.

The problem stems, not so much from the difference between earth energy (Taurus) and air energy (Aquarius), but the fact that both signs are unyielding (fixed) and will not give ground if they believe they are right and the other person does not agree.

• Getting to Know the Moon in Astrology

How the Moon in the Signs Feels It, Shares It, and Wants It

In order to find out where the Moon is in your design, you will need to get your chart cast for the day, time, and location where and when you were born. The chart will contain the following symbol somewhere around the wheel and it will be in a certain sign and house.

Moon in Aries

Moon in Aries shares it “directly”, feels it “independently”, and wants “excitement”.

Moon in Taurus

Moon in Taurus shares it “cautiously”, feels it “conservatively”, and wants “security and stability”.

Moon in Gemini

Moon in Gemini feels it “cleverly”, shares it “by talking”, and wants it “instantly”.

Moon in Cancer

Moon in Cancer feels it “deeply”, shares it “warmly”, and wants it “completely”.

Moon in Leo

Moon in Leo feels it “dramatically”, shares it “romantically”, and wants “to be admired”.

Moon in Virgo

Moon in Virgo feels it “practically”, shares it “particularly”, and wants it “precisely”.

Moon in Libra

Moon in Libra feels it “sympathetically”, shares it “fairly”, and wants “harmony”.

Moon in Scorpio

Moon in Scorpio feels it “secretly”, shares it “intensely”, and wants it “possessively”.

Moon in Sagittarius

Moon in Sagittarius feels it “passionately”, shares it “wisely”, and wants it “grandly”.

Moon in Capricorn

Moon in Capricorn feels it “competitively”, shares it “ambitiously”, and wants “status”.

Moon in Aquarius

Moon in Aquarius feels it “separately”, shares it “idealistically”, and wants it “perfectly”.

Moon in Pisces

Moon in Pisces feels it “empathically”, shares it “globally”, and wants it “spiritually”.

• Your Moon Phase at Birth: Your Emotional Compass

Aspects of Moon to Moon

Each sign aspects itself and another sign in a particular way when two points are involved, with an individual’s chart or person to person.  These aspects determine how the points will interact energetically; the closer the points are by degree, the more intense the exchange and interaction.

Conjunction

The points are in the same sign (example: Mercury in Aries/Mercury in Aries), so they merge (in this case: the same version of fire).

Semi-Sextile

The points are one sign apart (example: Mercury in Aries/Mercury in Taurus), so they subtly influence one another (in this case: fire and nearby earth).

Sextile

The points are two signs apart (example: Mercury in Aries/Mercury in Gemini), so they complement one another (in this case: fire and nearby air).

Square

The two points are three signs apart (example: Mercury in Aries/Mercury in Cancer), so they conflict with one another (in this case: fire and water).

Trine

The two points are four signs apart (example: Mercury in Aries/Mercury in Leo), so they are supporting one another (in this case: fire and fire).

Inconjunct/Quincunx

The two points are five signs apart (example: Mercury in Aries/Mercury in Virgo), so they are tweaking one another (in this case: fire and far away earth).

Opposition

The two points are six signs apart (example: Mercury in Aries/Mercury in Libra), so they are trying to balance one another (in this case: fire and far away air).

Some Specific Examples

Let’s now consider just a couple of concrete examples.

• The Moon in Astrology: Giving and Receiving Love

Moon in Gemini to Moon in Gemini

In this case, both individuals have the Moon in Gemini, one at 4 degrees and the other at 21 degrees.  These Moons are conjunct by sign, but not by degree.  They both give and receive love in the same fundamental way, through communication, by talking and listening to one another, texting and writing.

The first person has a Gemini/Gemini Moon, according to the degree and the decan it occupies (the 1^st ten degrees), so this person has a Moon that is extremely dynamic and excitable.  The second person has a Gemini/Aquarius Moon and can be a bit more aloof and idealistic with their feelings.

Air sign Moons do very well together because they process emotion through their minds. With Gemini as their sign, their planetary ruler is Mercury, so they can be known for their Mercurial (or ever-changing and adapting) emotional state.

Moon in Cancer to Moon in Capricorn

In this case one individual has the Moon at 13 degrees of Cancer and the other has the Moon at 15 degrees of Capricorn, so these Moons oppose one another.  They are close enough by degree that the opposition aspect is quite strong.  They will seek to balance one another.

The Cancer Moon individual will feel deeply, wanting to express and support vulnerable feelings as way to connect and feel loved.  The Capricorn Moon individual feels responsible, wanting to show and receive love by providing and achieving.

Conclusion

Knowing your Moon and the Moon of the people around you, or most closely connected to you, can take you a long way in terms of improved and successful feelings towards and about each other, as well greater understanding as to why someone does or does not “feel right” to you.